Here is a
loaded question, and I would be very interested to receive some responses in
the comments below. I am currently reading On Writing by Stephen King, and I have reached the section of the book where he
tells us that if we are serious about writing, we actually have to do it. We cannot
keep putting it off and blaming our life circumstances, our lack of free time,
and all the other millions of excuses we come up with.
Now, I totally
agree with that. But one sentence in King’s book struck a chord. He wrote that
he was fortunate to have a “self-sufficient wife” and she allowed him to hide
away and write whenever he needed to. They have children, and he wrote his
novels and short stories since before they were born and throughout their
lives. Did his wife shoulder the parental responsibility, and do all the
boring, everyday essential tasks of caring for the children before he found
fame and fortune?
I would say
that I have a self-sufficient husband. In fact, he is so self-sufficient that I
am often left at home with the children, and I do 99% of the household chores,
nurturing, caring, doctors’ appointments, etc. My husband simply works, in a
demanding job that takes him away from the family home for anything up to
sixteen hours every day, five days a week. He then spends the weekends ‘catching
up’ on his personal affairs, and sleeping because he so exhausted from working
all week. But he provides the income, and I must accept that.
In order to
follow Stephen King’s advice, I need to change that model of behaviour. My husband
refuses to make his work hours more flexible, or even to book time off that he
is legally allowed (that is a whole other saga!). He did recently have a pay
rise, however. Our cashflow is not brilliant, but if I am to look at the bigger
picture, I need some help with childcare. To that end, I plan to investigate
the costs of childcare, and see what I can fit around preschool and school. Then
perhaps I can find time to finish the manuscripts I have languishing on my hard
drive, and finally get my career established professionally.
How do you
fit writing in around family and work?
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